Monthly Archives: October 2014

Not a Democrat any more. Maybe.

Posted on October 31, 2014 by hessd

On November 4, the state of Oregon will start counting votes.[1] Measure 90 will either win or lose. If it loses, Oregon will continue to have closed primaries in May, in which Democrats cast their ballots for the candidates they … Continue reading →

The Courtship Marriage

Posted on October 26, 2014 by hessd

This starts with a really simple premise. I begin by rejecting “forever answers.”[1] He says, “Will you marry me?” meaning, “Will you love me forever?” She says “Yes.” Meaning “Yes, I will love you forever.” (I know that’s the truth … Continue reading →

Posted in Love and Marriage | Tagged autopilot relationships, clear focus, courtship, room to grow, staying current | Leave a comment

Is Forgiveness a Good Idea?

Posted on October 21, 2014 by hessd

I want to begin with as simple a phrasing as I can. Things are going to get so messy that I want to have something to look back at, as I would look back at my own innocent youth if … Continue reading →

Posted in Living My Life, Political Psychology, Uncategorized, ways of knowing | Tagged feeding grudges, forgiveness, not feeding grudges, prudence, resentment | 2 Comments

What I’m Good At

Posted on October 14, 2014 by hessd

“There are two things I know to be true. There’s no difference between good flan and bad flan, and there is no war,” says CIA agent Charles Young (William H. Macy), in Barry Levinson’s mercilessly funny movie, Wag the Dog. … Continue reading →

Posted in Getting Old, Living My Life, Paying Attention | Tagged arguments, faulty logic, good arguments and bad arguments, hidden premises, Mars and Venus, partiality | Leave a comment

“Commemorating” Vietnam, 50 years later

Posted on October 11, 2014 by hessd

How will we go about commemorating the 50th anniversary of a war from which we have not yet recovered. I was thinking about the Vietnam War, but it has been 150 years since the American Civil War and there is … Continue reading →

Posted in Living My Life, Political Psychology, Politics | Tagged domestic protest, heroic soldiers, Jane Fonda, John Kerry, Lyndon Johnson, Vietnam | Leave a comment