This isn’t a dazzlingly simple puzzle like the one Gandalf faced. He thought he was confronted by a sign that said, “Speak, friend, and enter.” No incantation in his capacious memory opened the doors. What it actually said was, “Speak friend and enter.” Gandalf spoke the elvish word for friend–mellon, as I recall–and the doors opened.
This isn’t as tough as that. My last post over at thedilettantesdilemma.blogspot.com invited you to come over here, following the bread crumbs, and here you are.
I’ve been poking and prodding at John Gray’s Mars/Venus books lately so I think that will be the subject of tomorrow’s post. The thing that continues to puzzle me about Gray is this: a) his idea that there is an essential character to men and to women (different, but complementary) is not a respectable idea it seems to me. Things are more complicated than that. On the other hand, b) his advice is gold in the mine. Forget how he understands gender relations. When I do what he says to do, it always works better than what I would otherwise have done.
How’s that for a dilemma?